It is her call. Make Sure You Want This. Now the question, I'd been dating a nice girl for a month or two we got along well but not very serious, no sex yet and no real full day dates [just evening dinners and makeout seshes and stuff] I went through a rough patch and kind of disconnected from everything for a bit, about 3 weeks. I might give you a second chance. I've got a feeling you've burned this bridge far too thoroughly. If they re-appeared, apologetic and wanting to try again, I would assume it didn't work out with the other person and I would be pissed to be considered a "second choice.
Whether 3 weeks is long or not depends on how often you were talking to each other.
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To answer your direct question, if I was seeing someone casually, I'd expect that there would be some sort of regular interval creating itself after a few months. I actually really like you, had been having a great time with you, and would really appreciate a second chance to show it. What you should have done was told her that you needed to mentally take care of some stuff, and let her KNOW that you were going to cut yourself off for a while. You seem to want to know how often you should contact someone you are casually dating. Taking things a bit farther, when this kind of behavior happens after some making out but pre-sexual encounter, we females sometimes interpret this as, "I didn't put out, so he bailed. If you can't handle communicating with me over a relatively minor issue e. Does he improve my life?